You can have a boring life that leads to the tiny paradise or you can have a very colorful bold life that leads through many huge and frightening hells which are a small but humanly significant part of the huge, vast paradise.

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Dear friends,

It has come to my attention that some of you are bothered by the fact that I have posted my fundraising efforts to get together with Susana on Facebook. The decision to even fundraise in the first place, let alone post it on any social network website was not one arrived at lightly. I met Susana not one, not two but three years ago on Facebook. I was certainly not looking for a long distance relationship but I was also certainly not going to close my options and make it that much harder for me to find someone. When things clicked between Susana and me, I felt really great and so did she. I thought it would be no problem to save up enough money to go and see her. Two years went by but due to two separate assaults with extremely high tax bills—which I also needed to ask help to pay—I never got to see Susana (except through the cold hard glass of the computer). Finally, with my tax assaults paid off and behind me, I was sure that 2013 would be the year I would save up enough money to see Susana. But 2013 came and went  and took all money away with it again. It was clear that the salary I was making at my job—a hard thing to come by these days—I need to stay at due to very brittle type I diabetes and good medical coverage was never going to enable me to get together with the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

In January 2014, Susana told me that she was determined that 2014 would be the year we would be together. Very touched by the fact that she made such an impossible determination with no idea on either of our parts how we would accomplish it, I decided that since many people raise money using Kickstarter to fund artistic projects, that I would do the same for this project of two people spending their lives together.

I am trying to be very polite in what I say in posting the news of this fundraiser on social networks as I am aware that many of you are getting notifications about this, perhaps in your email.

First, let me be clear that I am not asking any of you individually to contribute money. I am simply posting publicly that there is a wonderful fundraiser to help two people with obstacles come together in love if—AND ONLY IF—you would like to participate. There is nothing mean-spirited about this and whether or not you participate has nothing to do with how I will feel about you nor the status of my friendship with you. I will still continue to cherish you as much as a friend as I did before and as I would if you did contribute.

Second, there are some of you who feel this effort should be kept to myself and my girlfriend or abandoned altogether. It would take me too long to explain the flaws in the “self-made” delusion that many people, particularly the members of the Tea Party, have about how they got where they are and what everyone else should do to get where they want to be. The fact is that all of life is inherently interdependent. Nothing exists in isolation. The things we do every day contribute or take away from the well being of others. And our own well being exists thanks to the efforts of others, likewise our sufferings. The concept, “This belongs to me….You can’t have that….” is an arbitrary decision we, as imperfect human beings, not possibly knowing everything, make. I respect your right to your decision about what to do with whatever money you’ve come into in your life. But I ask in return that you respect my decision to politely request that you come to my aid in my time of need and do not hold it against you if you’re uncomfortable with it.

 

IF YOU DO NOT LIKE MY OPINION ON THIS MATTER, YOU ARE FREE TO DELETE ME AS YOUR FRIEND ON THE SOCIAL NETWORK YOU ARE RECEIVING THIS. I ONLY ASK THAT YOU AT LEAST TRY TO GIVE THIS MATTER SOME THOUGHT AND NOT REPORT ME TO THE SOCIAL NETWORK BECAUSE THIS REALLY IS A SMALL MATTER AND CERTAINLY NOT ONE OF FLAGRANT ABUSE OR VIOLATION OF YOUR PRIVILEGES ON THIS NETWORK.

 

Again, I’d like to remind you that, with the goal of $24,178.40 being what is necessary to enable me to come together and live with Susana (as you can refer to the original request), all it will take is 25,000 people contributing just $1 American, or 1,000 people (less than the number of all the Facebook friends I have) contributing $25, or 500 people contributing $50 to make this wonderful dream come true. So, while I hope

Evil and misery will be a part of every day where there is good and joy. The battle with evil must be fought until it is won, and then fought again the next day. You can pretend all you want but everyone will sooner or later come face to face with the evil and consequent misery in life. At that point, will you take on the fight of good and turn the misery into joy?

Only when you’ve been thrown a million times from the fiercest bucking bronco, getting back on, getting thrown again, and getting back on and having it out with that horse until you’ve finally mastered him—only then do you acquire the stealth, the majesty, the life of one who is unmoved by phenomenon, who freely masters what is in the world at his will—of the majestic seahawk.